How can I meet gay men?
January 20, 2008
I am a 19 year-old male. I don't want to be gay, but I always jackoff and think about naked men. I've never had sex with a man or a women, but want to try it with a man. I don't know how to find anyone and I am afraid to admit I fantasize about them. Where can I find some gay men?
When you're gay and unsure how to meet people, log on to gay.com. It's a huge website with tons of news, interesting articles, chatrooms, and message boards. It's a great place to start exploring the community near you. For more sexual meetups, try Manhunt.
As for not wanting to be gay, that's something you need to work through on you own. All I can suggest is that you don't have to label yourself right now, and that you don't have to give up anything you had planned to have if you lived a straight lifestyle. For example, a wife and biological kids. You can easily change that into a lover and adopted kids. Or even biological ones if you are so inclined.
If I may make one suggestion for you, it is this: Do not ever let your fear of coming out as liking guys get the best of you. As an escort who routinely sees closeted and openly gay/bi people on a regular basis, I can tell you without a doubt that the open ones are far happier than the closeted ones. It's far more stressful and difficult to hide who you are than to be proud of it.
Fortunately, you don't have to come out and make a public announcement about your sexuality right now. Start making friends who know about your interests and spend time with them. Fairly quickly you'll find someone you want to be sexual with, and everything will naturally progress from there. Good luck!
As for not wanting to be gay, that's something you need to work through on you own. All I can suggest is that you don't have to label yourself right now, and that you don't have to give up anything you had planned to have if you lived a straight lifestyle. For example, a wife and biological kids. You can easily change that into a lover and adopted kids. Or even biological ones if you are so inclined.
If I may make one suggestion for you, it is this: Do not ever let your fear of coming out as liking guys get the best of you. As an escort who routinely sees closeted and openly gay/bi people on a regular basis, I can tell you without a doubt that the open ones are far happier than the closeted ones. It's far more stressful and difficult to hide who you are than to be proud of it.
Fortunately, you don't have to come out and make a public announcement about your sexuality right now. Start making friends who know about your interests and spend time with them. Fairly quickly you'll find someone you want to be sexual with, and everything will naturally progress from there. Good luck!
Comment by Go online! on January 23, 2008
Your writing in for advice on a website... DUH! Lol. There are dozens of great hook-up websites. Just about any gay man in the word can meet another gay man for sex in less than an hour no matter where you live or what time of day it is by looking online. I hooked up with my first guy online and that was it... I never looked back. I'm 43 now and still am able find another attractive man within minutes if I'm looking.