How can a not-so-studly recluse meet a young stud?
January 20, 2008
I'm 45, 250#, balding and reclusive. I have used escorts and hustlers but have not come out. I have had three lovers -- each 15 years or more my junior and gorgeous. However those relationships seem to only last a year or so. Do you have any suggestions on how I may meet people. I am retired and lonely but very discreet. Please give me some advice.
If I could ask you a question I’d ask you why those relationships came to an end. And who left who, anyway? I suspect understanding why those relationships ended would give you a better approach to what relationships may work for you.
Of course that wasn’t what you asked. You wanted to know how you can meet people. Not exactly a tough question to answer. You said you’re retired, reclusive, and discreet. So why not come out and start meeting people? Certainly you have the time to do it. And being retired you can’t exactly lose your job over the issue. Get involved with your local gay community center. Start doing volunteer work. Join a gay church. You know the routine! If you get out and about and meet people you’ll have a much better chance of finding Mr. Right than if you sit alone in your house while you feel sorry for yourself. If you’re dating openly or even semi-openly gay guys that much younger than yourself, you’re going to need to come out more to keep them around anyway. Dating a closeted man is highly irritating for openly gay guys.
Since you felt a need to point out your weight, I feel a need to counterpoint that you may want to start exercising more. You have the time on your hands, and it would be good for you. Even more than looking better, you’ll enjoy the increase in your self-confidence. And confident people most definitely have a better time when searching for a mate.
Of course that wasn’t what you asked. You wanted to know how you can meet people. Not exactly a tough question to answer. You said you’re retired, reclusive, and discreet. So why not come out and start meeting people? Certainly you have the time to do it. And being retired you can’t exactly lose your job over the issue. Get involved with your local gay community center. Start doing volunteer work. Join a gay church. You know the routine! If you get out and about and meet people you’ll have a much better chance of finding Mr. Right than if you sit alone in your house while you feel sorry for yourself. If you’re dating openly or even semi-openly gay guys that much younger than yourself, you’re going to need to come out more to keep them around anyway. Dating a closeted man is highly irritating for openly gay guys.
Since you felt a need to point out your weight, I feel a need to counterpoint that you may want to start exercising more. You have the time on your hands, and it would be good for you. Even more than looking better, you’ll enjoy the increase in your self-confidence. And confident people most definitely have a better time when searching for a mate.
