Is it bad to prefer sex with escorts over other guys?
January 20, 2008
I'm starting to worry about myself. I'm a good looking dude who has had lots of free sex in his lifetime, but I find myself more and more to be turned on by only escort sex. I have even turned down perfectly good free stuff to make a date with an escort. I'm not a rich dude at all. Do you think I have a problem?
In psychology, a behavior becomes a problem when it begins interfering with the quality of life of either you or someone else, or if it causes someone significant mental distress. So it's not for me to say whether you have a problem or not. It's for you and those around you to decide.
Having said that, it sounds sound to me as if those conditions do not apply... yet. You're obviously concerned with your habits, but you're hardly upset over it. Therefore my thought is that you're mentally and socially healthy as long as you're not letting your escort sex get the best of you. Escorts are fun when used responsibly, but when overdone they can lead to serious financial drainage and social isolation.
Try sitting down and planing a budget, giving yourself an escort "allowance" based on your current financial situation. Staying within that allowance will determine much of how dependent you are on escorts. If you are able to stay within your self-imposed limits, you'll probably be fine. On the other hand, if you find yourself breaking your budget every time you're lonely, depressed, or having a bad day, you may have a problem that requires professional counseling.
The other thing you may want to keep an eye out for is only being turned on by escort sex. Escorts are can be addictive to some people. A skilled escort is there to put your needs first and to do what you want, when you want, how you want it, whenever you want it, etc. etc. etc. That sort of convenience and power is very attractive in a sexual partner, and can easily lead some people to living in a fantasy world. Keep in mind that what you are purchasing is a fantasy-come-true. It's fun, it's hot, and it's enjoyable. But in the end it's only a fantasy. So enjoy what you're doing - as long as you're able to do it within financial boundaries while not giving up your social life, great! But if you're crossing those boundaries and are hiring escorts irresponsibly, then you should find yourself a professional counselor and start working through your issues.
Having said that, it sounds sound to me as if those conditions do not apply... yet. You're obviously concerned with your habits, but you're hardly upset over it. Therefore my thought is that you're mentally and socially healthy as long as you're not letting your escort sex get the best of you. Escorts are fun when used responsibly, but when overdone they can lead to serious financial drainage and social isolation.
Try sitting down and planing a budget, giving yourself an escort "allowance" based on your current financial situation. Staying within that allowance will determine much of how dependent you are on escorts. If you are able to stay within your self-imposed limits, you'll probably be fine. On the other hand, if you find yourself breaking your budget every time you're lonely, depressed, or having a bad day, you may have a problem that requires professional counseling.
The other thing you may want to keep an eye out for is only being turned on by escort sex. Escorts are can be addictive to some people. A skilled escort is there to put your needs first and to do what you want, when you want, how you want it, whenever you want it, etc. etc. etc. That sort of convenience and power is very attractive in a sexual partner, and can easily lead some people to living in a fantasy world. Keep in mind that what you are purchasing is a fantasy-come-true. It's fun, it's hot, and it's enjoyable. But in the end it's only a fantasy. So enjoy what you're doing - as long as you're able to do it within financial boundaries while not giving up your social life, great! But if you're crossing those boundaries and are hiring escorts irresponsibly, then you should find yourself a professional counselor and start working through your issues.
