How can I get an erection while being fucked?

January 20, 2008
I am a 39 year old married bi male. I have had several male-male relationships off and on. I'm a versatile guy who enjoys both top or bottom. My dilemma is this: when I'm a bottom I rarely achieve an erection. What causes this? I would love to have the top masturbate me while he is in me, but I just can't seem to get hard. I have no problem getting an erection any other time.—Anonymous
Good news: You're normal! Lots of guys lose their erection when they are getting fucked. The reasons vary, but have a lot to do with the type of stimulation that you are receiving. When something pushes up against your prostate, for example, lots of guys naturally lose their hardon. This isn't bad or abnormal - it's the way some guy's bodies simply work. If you manage to keep your erection, then more power to you. It means you're super turned-on and the physical feelings are really enjoyable.

If you really want to keep your erection while being fucked, have the guy top you gently in a position that allows you to play with your dick. If he does this while doing anything else you enjoy (kissing, having your nipples played with, etc.) you stand as good of a chance of staying hard as you ever will.

Alternately, try a Viagra before you have sex. That often solves the problem as well.—Aaron Lawrence

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