How can I find a boyfriend my small community?
January 20, 2008
I am an 18 year old gay male who is part French, Cherokee, Indian, and Jewish. I am a very out and proud of about being gay, but I am not open to my mom and sister. I have told them once but they do not believe me at all. I've been "out" for almost three years now and I'm even out at my high school even though I get teased everyday. I'm used to it.
I don't have any friends. I don't go anywhere. I don't date and I don't have a boyfriend. I want a relationship not a quick fuck but most guys my age are only interested in sex. The gay community in my city is very small. What should or can I do?
I don't have any friends. I don't go anywhere. I don't date and I don't have a boyfriend. I want a relationship not a quick fuck but most guys my age are only interested in sex. The gay community in my city is very small. What should or can I do?
Study hard then go somewhere very gay for college. Since you're 18 years-old you are a senior in high school (I'm assuming you're here in the USA). It's December right now so you only have a few more months to go. Yeah, it sucks, but you're out of school in June and off to college in August. So here's your plan. As you consider the colleges and universities you have been/are applying to, go on the web to yahoo.com and do a quick search for "gay ". You want to find a webpage or information about the campus's gay group. You may need to click on "web pages" rather than "web sites" to find what you are looking for. Then call them up on the phone and say you're considering coming there in the fall and ask them what the gay community is like both on and off campus.
Do this for several schools and you'll have something new to consider when selecting your school. Going to college is one of the world's greatest experiences. In your town you're Joe Schmoe the gay kid who gets teased. But at college no one knows who you are or the background you are coming from. You can completely make a new place for yourself in life and be open about your sexuality from day one. Open, I might add, in an active gay community if you do your research pick the right school. The boyfriend should fall into place at that point.
What to do until you head to school? Go to google and do a web search for "gay youth". You'll find a whole mess of resources to tide you over till you start packing.
Do this for several schools and you'll have something new to consider when selecting your school. Going to college is one of the world's greatest experiences. In your town you're Joe Schmoe the gay kid who gets teased. But at college no one knows who you are or the background you are coming from. You can completely make a new place for yourself in life and be open about your sexuality from day one. Open, I might add, in an active gay community if you do your research pick the right school. The boyfriend should fall into place at that point.
What to do until you head to school? Go to google and do a web search for "gay youth". You'll find a whole mess of resources to tide you over till you start packing.
