How can I find an escort that is looking for a long-term relationship?
January 25, 2008
I am happy that you are married and my question is to help me get married. I would like to hire escorts in the hope that I shall meet someone I would like to marry and who would want to marry me. Is my idea practical and what is the best way to go about it? I know of an escort service called Local Male Escorts which denotes which escorts are looking for a long term relationship. However if there are other sources, please let me know.
Speaking as someone who has both hired escorts and been hired as one, you're crazy to be using rentboys as a way to find a romantic relationship. In my case, my lover and I were dating long before I became an escort. It put us on a even footing when setting the ground rules for my career.
To answer your question, yes, it is possible for clients to enter romantic long-term relationships with their escorts. But it's extraordinarily rare, and even then it usually lasts for a few years at the most. Why? For a lot of reasons.
- Escorts (good ones, at least) put the needs of the client before their own. Their own needs take a backseat to the money they are being paid. This creates the illusion of the escort as the perfect lover, when in fact the client isn't getting to know him at all.
- Like in the movie Pretty Woman, clients usually expect the escort to quit their job once they fall in love. In reality, escorts are often in the business for more than money. They escort for excitement and esteem as well. So most client-escort romantic relationships are headed for a fight when the client wants the escort to quit his job.
- Many clients try to "buy out" the escort from the business in the form of an ongoing payment not to work. This is called a "sugar daddy" and the relationship is filled with its own issues as well.
- There is usually a significant age difference between clients and escorts. Like most intergenerational relationships, the two partners are at different points in their lives and often want different things. Intergenerational relationships can work, but it's difficult at best.
All in all, escorts are a great way to spend an evening having an intimately good time. Good escorts are "instant boyfriends", but are only temporary in nature. To confuse an escort-client relationship with a real romantic one is asking for trouble at best.
To answer your question, yes, it is possible for clients to enter romantic long-term relationships with their escorts. But it's extraordinarily rare, and even then it usually lasts for a few years at the most. Why? For a lot of reasons.
- Escorts (good ones, at least) put the needs of the client before their own. Their own needs take a backseat to the money they are being paid. This creates the illusion of the escort as the perfect lover, when in fact the client isn't getting to know him at all.
- Like in the movie Pretty Woman, clients usually expect the escort to quit their job once they fall in love. In reality, escorts are often in the business for more than money. They escort for excitement and esteem as well. So most client-escort romantic relationships are headed for a fight when the client wants the escort to quit his job.
- Many clients try to "buy out" the escort from the business in the form of an ongoing payment not to work. This is called a "sugar daddy" and the relationship is filled with its own issues as well.
- There is usually a significant age difference between clients and escorts. Like most intergenerational relationships, the two partners are at different points in their lives and often want different things. Intergenerational relationships can work, but it's difficult at best.
All in all, escorts are a great way to spend an evening having an intimately good time. Good escorts are "instant boyfriends", but are only temporary in nature. To confuse an escort-client relationship with a real romantic one is asking for trouble at best.
Comment by old man on January 30, 2008
Aaron I agree with all you have said but many escorts are aching for a true relationship to free them from what has been for them a very demeaning experience.