Is my ex-boyfriend the reason I can't get hard?
January 19, 2008
My first lover was my best friend. We had a relationship near eight years. He asked to stop because he wanted to be "man" again. All those years we both had our girlfriends and lived heterosexual lives. Until that point I thought we had a monogamous relationship. Later I learned that the son of a bitch had screwed the half of the men in my city. I felt totally deceived and destroyed.
Months later I had sex with another man. He was a top so I didn't notice anything out of the ordinary. After my second, third, fourth and fifth guys I discovered a trend. I could be fully hard, but as soon as I put the condom on and started to slide inside one of them, I would go limp.
Since the breakup my lover and I have screwed around four times. Each time I fucked him and I was hard for at least two hours. I have sex with my girlfriend almost daily with no difficulties (if that matters). Any advice about how to throw an old lovers's ghost to the trash?
Months later I had sex with another man. He was a top so I didn't notice anything out of the ordinary. After my second, third, fourth and fifth guys I discovered a trend. I could be fully hard, but as soon as I put the condom on and started to slide inside one of them, I would go limp.
Since the breakup my lover and I have screwed around four times. Each time I fucked him and I was hard for at least two hours. I have sex with my girlfriend almost daily with no difficulties (if that matters). Any advice about how to throw an old lovers's ghost to the trash?
I love it. You've got a girlfriend who almost certainly doesn't know about your affair with your best friend, and then you have the nerve to get mad when he cheats on you? What goes around comes around, pal.
But lecture aside. I'll bet five bucks that you haven't been using condoms when you fuck your ex-lover or your girlfriend. That would explain why you're having such an easy time getting hard with them but not with other people. Switch condoms, change positions, or try Viagra to solve that. If condoms use isn't the case, then perhaps you're having troubles because your dick only likes to get hard if you are very familiar and comfortable with the person you're seeing. Either way, you may want to focus on developing more serious relationships rather than screwing around with the various guys you meet.
As for throwing out the old lover's ghost, why are you even bothering to ask? You sleep with him every time he decides being fucked is more important than being "a man." If you want to get over him, stop banging him. If you're still pining for him after six months then write to me again and we'll talk.
But lecture aside. I'll bet five bucks that you haven't been using condoms when you fuck your ex-lover or your girlfriend. That would explain why you're having such an easy time getting hard with them but not with other people. Switch condoms, change positions, or try Viagra to solve that. If condoms use isn't the case, then perhaps you're having troubles because your dick only likes to get hard if you are very familiar and comfortable with the person you're seeing. Either way, you may want to focus on developing more serious relationships rather than screwing around with the various guys you meet.
As for throwing out the old lover's ghost, why are you even bothering to ask? You sleep with him every time he decides being fucked is more important than being "a man." If you want to get over him, stop banging him. If you're still pining for him after six months then write to me again and we'll talk.
