How do I tell someone his feet are sexy without him freaking out?
January 23, 2008
I'm 22 and have a foot fetish. Some guys' feet really turn me on but I am too embarrassed to ask a guy if I can smell his feet and suck on his toes. When I have done it to a few guys they sort of freak out and tell me not to do that. I've even had one guy jerk his foot away and ask me what in the hell I was doing. Rejection adds to the embarrassment. How do I go about letting a guy know I find his feet sexy without making either one of us feel uncomfortable.
A foot fetish isn't uncommon by any means, although it's not standard play either. As such, springing a foot fetish on a partner is likely to lead to the impromptu reactions that you have experienced. So let's try another approach.
If I were in your place, I'd do two things. First, I'd let them know about my foot fetish while everyone's clothing is still on. Ideally before you're making out in the bedroom. That way he has time to process it and, if he can't handle it, gives him a chance to back out politely. Yeah, it sucks to lose a trick over such matters, but it beats the hell out of having him freak out in bed when you blow your load all over his lovely toes.
I'd try saying something like, "mind if I let you in on a little secret?" And when he says "sure", then tell him about your foot fetish. Stress that isn't not the end-all, be-all of sex for you (unless it is!), but that it's a fun part of sex that turns you on wildly. Tell him that if he doesn't mind you'd love to play with his toes for a while. He doesn't have to do anything to your feet in return (unless he wants to, of course), but it would just get you hot to suck on his toes and like the soles of his foot.
I'd also start looking for guys in ways that you can be up front about your foot fetish. Put it in your profile on Manhunt, for example. Attend a gay foot fetish party. For the life of me, I couldn't find a good personals website for guys into feet, but I'll bet one exists out there. Perhaps my readers can recommend one?
Finally, I'd suggest you choose your words carefully when talking to a non-foot-fetish guy. Describing your foot fetish to him is a bit like explaining the appeal of gay sex to a straight guy. And while you may love the smell of feet, that's like trying to convince the straight guy that dick smells great. We're oddly afraid of our sense of smell in that regards. So until someone gains your trust you may want to explain your fetish in terms of sucking toes rather than smelling feet.
If I were in your place, I'd do two things. First, I'd let them know about my foot fetish while everyone's clothing is still on. Ideally before you're making out in the bedroom. That way he has time to process it and, if he can't handle it, gives him a chance to back out politely. Yeah, it sucks to lose a trick over such matters, but it beats the hell out of having him freak out in bed when you blow your load all over his lovely toes.
I'd try saying something like, "mind if I let you in on a little secret?" And when he says "sure", then tell him about your foot fetish. Stress that isn't not the end-all, be-all of sex for you (unless it is!), but that it's a fun part of sex that turns you on wildly. Tell him that if he doesn't mind you'd love to play with his toes for a while. He doesn't have to do anything to your feet in return (unless he wants to, of course), but it would just get you hot to suck on his toes and like the soles of his foot.
I'd also start looking for guys in ways that you can be up front about your foot fetish. Put it in your profile on Manhunt, for example. Attend a gay foot fetish party. For the life of me, I couldn't find a good personals website for guys into feet, but I'll bet one exists out there. Perhaps my readers can recommend one?
Finally, I'd suggest you choose your words carefully when talking to a non-foot-fetish guy. Describing your foot fetish to him is a bit like explaining the appeal of gay sex to a straight guy. And while you may love the smell of feet, that's like trying to convince the straight guy that dick smells great. We're oddly afraid of our sense of smell in that regards. So until someone gains your trust you may want to explain your fetish in terms of sucking toes rather than smelling feet.
