Is there any hope for a guy who isn’t quite a stud?
January 21, 2008
I am 28 am still a virgin. I have never even kissed a boy. I’m not exactly a Brad Pitt. I have very thin hair and going bald, I wear glasses, and I have a round face. A lot of guys have even laughed at my attempts to make contact and call me fat and ugly. I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m thinking that maybe I have to accept the fact that I’m not as attractive as I like to be, but that means that I will never experience the joy of sex and that I will never have a cute boyfriend. I’m very desperate. What can I do?
Let me get this straight: You’re chubby, balding, and are having a tough time getting laid. Welcome to the club, friend. You just described half of American men. Many of whom, I might point out, are often in healthy relationships and are sucking dick on a regular basis.
You could get around your situation changing your approach. If people point at you and laugh then whatever you’re doing isn’t working. If you’ve been going to sex clubs, try bars instead. If you’re in bars, try joining gay community organizations. If you’re already striking out there, try personal ads online. There are tons of ways to find Mr. Right. You just have to keep at it.
Your other alternative is to change the way you look. It involves a lot of time and effort, but you could make dramatic changes. I have a good friend that was in an almost identical situation when he was 27. He started went on a diet, started working out with a personal trainer, and joined the Hair Club for Men. Now at age 31 he is a highly successful stripper and porn star. He’s constantly amazed at his new life, but understands that it was all a result of your hard work. Even if you don’t want to give up your day job, dedicating a year of your life to improving the way you look will do wonders for your self-esteem.
Alternately, you could try both approaches. Whatever you do, don’t just sit and feel sorry for yourself. No one wants to date someone who mopes all day. And if your desires to have sex start really frustrating yourself, go hire yourself an escort for your first experience with a guy. Hiring an escort isn’t something that only ugly guys do, y’know. It’ll give you a boost of self-confidence and you’ll have fun in the process. And who knows? Maybe in three years you’ll be availing the public of your sexual services.
You could get around your situation changing your approach. If people point at you and laugh then whatever you’re doing isn’t working. If you’ve been going to sex clubs, try bars instead. If you’re in bars, try joining gay community organizations. If you’re already striking out there, try personal ads online. There are tons of ways to find Mr. Right. You just have to keep at it.
Your other alternative is to change the way you look. It involves a lot of time and effort, but you could make dramatic changes. I have a good friend that was in an almost identical situation when he was 27. He started went on a diet, started working out with a personal trainer, and joined the Hair Club for Men. Now at age 31 he is a highly successful stripper and porn star. He’s constantly amazed at his new life, but understands that it was all a result of your hard work. Even if you don’t want to give up your day job, dedicating a year of your life to improving the way you look will do wonders for your self-esteem.
Alternately, you could try both approaches. Whatever you do, don’t just sit and feel sorry for yourself. No one wants to date someone who mopes all day. And if your desires to have sex start really frustrating yourself, go hire yourself an escort for your first experience with a guy. Hiring an escort isn’t something that only ugly guys do, y’know. It’ll give you a boost of self-confidence and you’ll have fun in the process. And who knows? Maybe in three years you’ll be availing the public of your sexual services.
Comment by Anonymous on January 21, 2008
I went from hot 27 y/o (good hair, body, big cock, the whole nine yards) to chunky 38 y/o with 12+ years of committed relationship. Yes, I could go back to HOT body, but the reality is - you are loved just the way you are! If someone else can’t see that, well then screw ‘em! You deserve better. We all can’t be that lucky in life, you have to like and love your self, the right man WILL follow!