How can I regain the sexual energy of my youth?
January 21, 2008
I am a six-foot tall guy who was hung-up about being "masculine" as a youth and didn't bottom till my late twenties. I can't get enough of being fucked now, but unfortunately I'm no longer a young, nubile hunk. The trouble is that I don't like anonymous sex - I like regular partners, but I have come to the conclusion that: 1) 95% of gay men prefer bottoming ("bottom seeking top" is the #1 ad title), 2) of the remaining 5% who are tops, only 0.5% turn me on, and 3) in that 0.5%, I doubt that most are into 40-yr olds.
I don't really know the solution. Should I start taking growth hormone and testosterone to regain my youthful figure? Or should I just accept the inevitable and sublimate my desires in other pursuits? Quickies just ease the sexual tension but don't deal with the problem; I feel that escorts would be similar if more costly. Any words of wisdom to an aging whore?
I don't really know the solution. Should I start taking growth hormone and testosterone to regain my youthful figure? Or should I just accept the inevitable and sublimate my desires in other pursuits? Quickies just ease the sexual tension but don't deal with the problem; I feel that escorts would be similar if more costly. Any words of wisdom to an aging whore?
If I knew of a surefire way to reclaim the body and energy of youth I would be sailing the South Pacific on my yacht right now. For better or for worse, there are no pills that will have that effect on you. Besides the fact that testosterone is only available with a doctor's prescription, it will undoubtedly have side effects you don't like. Yes, you are likely to have a bit more sexual energy, but keep in mind that testosterone also causes male baldness and increases your amount of body hair.
That being said, I think your problem is in your mind. For starters, where did you get the idea that 95% of gay men prefer bottoming? I know a lot of tops that complain that they can't find any good bottoms. And if only 1 in 10 guys turn you on, that's still a lot of guys out there. I have no idea which 1 in 10 you are talking about (guys under 25? bodybuilders? GQ models?), but perhaps you need to reevaluate your standards a bit. As an escort I have sex with guys that don't fall into any of those categories on a regular basis, and I can testify to the fact that sex with a lot of them is VERY good. Still, if you are supremely picky and are only willing to have sex with guys half your age, then don't be too upset when you don't find what you are looking for very often.
Whatever type of you are attracted to, you should most certainly not give up. You're 40 years old. That's considered young by many people's standards. Unless you feel like growing old prematurely and giving up on life, I suggest you keep looking around for guys to play with. You're not THAT far away from your late twenties when you started being fucked, and your body can't have changed that much. And even if it has, six months in a gym working with a personal trainer may do wonders for your self-image. Regardless of that, you still have plenty of time to have wonderful sexual relationships with incredible tops. Keep looking and you'll certainly find a few.
That being said, I think your problem is in your mind. For starters, where did you get the idea that 95% of gay men prefer bottoming? I know a lot of tops that complain that they can't find any good bottoms. And if only 1 in 10 guys turn you on, that's still a lot of guys out there. I have no idea which 1 in 10 you are talking about (guys under 25? bodybuilders? GQ models?), but perhaps you need to reevaluate your standards a bit. As an escort I have sex with guys that don't fall into any of those categories on a regular basis, and I can testify to the fact that sex with a lot of them is VERY good. Still, if you are supremely picky and are only willing to have sex with guys half your age, then don't be too upset when you don't find what you are looking for very often.
Whatever type of you are attracted to, you should most certainly not give up. You're 40 years old. That's considered young by many people's standards. Unless you feel like growing old prematurely and giving up on life, I suggest you keep looking around for guys to play with. You're not THAT far away from your late twenties when you started being fucked, and your body can't have changed that much. And even if it has, six months in a gym working with a personal trainer may do wonders for your self-image. Regardless of that, you still have plenty of time to have wonderful sexual relationships with incredible tops. Keep looking and you'll certainly find a few.
