Is it okay to suck off a guy through a gloryhole?
January 21, 2008
I am a young guy who is pretty much straight/bi-curious, and generally a very safe, conscientious, levelheaded individual; however I am not very "smart" when it comes to gloryholes. I am extremely turned on by the thought of giving an anonymous blow job through a gloryhole. I have been doing it now for about two to three years. It's not like I've given thousands of bjs during that time though, because I usually don't find another hot young guy that I'm interested in sucking (I'm pretty picky). Until recently, I never let the guy cum in my mouth, let alone swallow his cum. There has been about 4 guys over the last six months or so that I did let cum in my mouth (didn't swallow) and I always get very scared about AIDS after I get off and the horniness wears off.
In your last column, you said some of the warning signs when you initially contract the disease include rash, fever and muscle aches. I've only experienced a rash between my thighs off and on for a couple of months now with no other symptoms. Do you think I should be concerned? And obviously, what I do isn't the safest thing in the world, but would you stop doing it if you were me? What about letting the guy come and then spiting it out, or not letting him cum in my mouth at all? Is that pretty safe? Thanks, and I'll look forward to your response!
In your last column, you said some of the warning signs when you initially contract the disease include rash, fever and muscle aches. I've only experienced a rash between my thighs off and on for a couple of months now with no other symptoms. Do you think I should be concerned? And obviously, what I do isn't the safest thing in the world, but would you stop doing it if you were me? What about letting the guy come and then spiting it out, or not letting him cum in my mouth at all? Is that pretty safe? Thanks, and I'll look forward to your response!
Being a fan of receiving blowjobs through gloryholes, may I start by applauding your fantasy of giving them? It takes both types of guys to have fun with a hole, so you and I should be feeding off each others' fantasies (no pun intended).
Anyway, it sounds to me like you know the logistics of giving oral sex. It's simply the medical side of blowjobs you're confused about. And whether you're giving a blowjob through a glory, in a backroom, or on your bed, the risks are still the same.
For starters, not swallowing cum is somewhat helpful in reducing your risks of contracting HIV and other STDs, but should not be seen is being particularly safe. You may have cuts or sores in your mouth or gums, and can contract them through those openings. Indeed, many STDs such as gonorrhea and herpes are even easier to contract. You can contract those even if you have no sores in your mouth, and regardless of whether you spit or swallow.
Regarding your risk for HIV, you should definitely be tested for HIV at least every six months. What you are doing puts you at risk for the disease. Since I am not a doctor and cannot speak to your rash, you may want to visit your doctor next time it breaks out. It is my understanding that the "HIV rash" only lasts a short while and does not reoccur, but by no means should you take my word as gospel. If nothing else, you'll be glad your doctor can help you get rid of the rash. : )
As for your final questions: Should you be concerned? Yes. Would I stop doing it if I were you? I'm not you, so I can't say for sure. You're currently letting guys cum in your mouth at the rate of eight per year (and that's not including the guys you suck that don't cum in your mouth). At that rate you have a good chance of contracting an STD at some point in the future. It may be next time, it may be next year, or it may be ten years from now. But as long as you're willing to gamble that the STD you contract is easily treatable, then go ahead and continue your behavior. Just remember that in the end, you have to weigh "having fun in your life" against "the suckiness of having an STD." Make your decision and learn to life with the result.
If you want a middle-ground that puts you at some risk but gives you some fun, play at the gloryholes, check your partner for visible signs of STDs, suck cock, but don't let him cum in your mouth. And when you're sucking on him, concentrating on lots of licking on his balls and along the sides of his shaft. That's safer than taking precum in your mouth. These steps aren't foolproof by any means, but they're better than no precautions at all.
Anyway, it sounds to me like you know the logistics of giving oral sex. It's simply the medical side of blowjobs you're confused about. And whether you're giving a blowjob through a glory, in a backroom, or on your bed, the risks are still the same.
For starters, not swallowing cum is somewhat helpful in reducing your risks of contracting HIV and other STDs, but should not be seen is being particularly safe. You may have cuts or sores in your mouth or gums, and can contract them through those openings. Indeed, many STDs such as gonorrhea and herpes are even easier to contract. You can contract those even if you have no sores in your mouth, and regardless of whether you spit or swallow.
Regarding your risk for HIV, you should definitely be tested for HIV at least every six months. What you are doing puts you at risk for the disease. Since I am not a doctor and cannot speak to your rash, you may want to visit your doctor next time it breaks out. It is my understanding that the "HIV rash" only lasts a short while and does not reoccur, but by no means should you take my word as gospel. If nothing else, you'll be glad your doctor can help you get rid of the rash. : )
As for your final questions: Should you be concerned? Yes. Would I stop doing it if I were you? I'm not you, so I can't say for sure. You're currently letting guys cum in your mouth at the rate of eight per year (and that's not including the guys you suck that don't cum in your mouth). At that rate you have a good chance of contracting an STD at some point in the future. It may be next time, it may be next year, or it may be ten years from now. But as long as you're willing to gamble that the STD you contract is easily treatable, then go ahead and continue your behavior. Just remember that in the end, you have to weigh "having fun in your life" against "the suckiness of having an STD." Make your decision and learn to life with the result.
If you want a middle-ground that puts you at some risk but gives you some fun, play at the gloryholes, check your partner for visible signs of STDs, suck cock, but don't let him cum in your mouth. And when you're sucking on him, concentrating on lots of licking on his balls and along the sides of his shaft. That's safer than taking precum in your mouth. These steps aren't foolproof by any means, but they're better than no precautions at all.
