How can I become comfortable having sex outdoors?
January 19, 2008
When it comes to sex in public places, backrooms and arcades have always been my favorites. Unfortunately backrooms and videos arcades have disappeared in my area. Since I have no desire for sex in a bathroom, I have taken my cruising to the parks.
My problem is I am struggling to make the adjustment from indoor to outdoor cruising. The rules seem to be different. In a backroom there are wall-to-wall guys just waiting for you to grab hold. In an arcade, the protocol for getting a guy into your booth is straightforward. The signals confuse me when I am cruising the nature trails.
I feel very uncomfortable just being outside. I have trouble maintaining my erection on those rare occasions when I do meet someone. Recently, I met a guy who wanted me to fuck him in the woods. He was so hot! He unzipped and pulled down my pants. He then unbuttoned my shirt, took it off and gently laid it over a tree branch. Still turned on, I slipped inside him. Within two minutes, I began fighting insects. I glanced at my shirt hanging there and began wondering how fast I could get dressed if we heard someone approaching. Needless to say, my erection began to fade. My dick wanted to continue, but my brain put a stop to the action.
Do you have any advice to help me become more comfortable with sex in the wild? There are some sexy guys out there doing it in the park and I want in on the action.
My problem is I am struggling to make the adjustment from indoor to outdoor cruising. The rules seem to be different. In a backroom there are wall-to-wall guys just waiting for you to grab hold. In an arcade, the protocol for getting a guy into your booth is straightforward. The signals confuse me when I am cruising the nature trails.
I feel very uncomfortable just being outside. I have trouble maintaining my erection on those rare occasions when I do meet someone. Recently, I met a guy who wanted me to fuck him in the woods. He was so hot! He unzipped and pulled down my pants. He then unbuttoned my shirt, took it off and gently laid it over a tree branch. Still turned on, I slipped inside him. Within two minutes, I began fighting insects. I glanced at my shirt hanging there and began wondering how fast I could get dressed if we heard someone approaching. Needless to say, my erection began to fade. My dick wanted to continue, but my brain put a stop to the action.
Do you have any advice to help me become more comfortable with sex in the wild? There are some sexy guys out there doing it in the park and I want in on the action.
I think your advice is simple when you look back at your problems. You're worried about being interrupted, bothered by insects, and feeling exposed in a strange place. No wonder you're having trouble getting hard. Fortunately, if you solve these problems your erection difficulties will solve themselves.
The first challenge is that you are nervous that a non-cruiser may interrupt you. Or worse yet, that a cop may appear out of nowhere. You can relax a bit by spending a few afternoons exploring your new cruisy park and becoming more familiar with the patterns of people flowing into and out of the area. Look for times of the day or areas of the park to avoid because of too many non-cruisers. Keep your eyes open for escape routes or hiding places in case something goes wrong and you need to make a run for it. As you become more comfortable with the environment you will become more at ease.
The insect problem is even easier to solve by using bug spray or cruising on days when the wind will keep bugs out of the air.
As for feeling exposed when undressed in the park, don't take all of your clothes off. Lots of outdoor cruisers keep their clothes on. Wear clothes too that are easily pulled down and up, such as a sweatshirt and sweatpants. Wear the right outfit and you won't need underwear or a t-shirt, either. Less clothes to keep track of means less to put back on in case something goes wrong. Or less to pull up, in the case of your pants around your knees.
Whatever you do, keep an eye on cruisingforsex.com. They often post alerts about cops patrolling and arresting people in certain parks. Keep an eye on the township's local paper, too. The police report may provide you with the warning you need to lie low and avoid arrest. Oh, and play safe, okay? It's not always easy to do that in a park.
The first challenge is that you are nervous that a non-cruiser may interrupt you. Or worse yet, that a cop may appear out of nowhere. You can relax a bit by spending a few afternoons exploring your new cruisy park and becoming more familiar with the patterns of people flowing into and out of the area. Look for times of the day or areas of the park to avoid because of too many non-cruisers. Keep your eyes open for escape routes or hiding places in case something goes wrong and you need to make a run for it. As you become more comfortable with the environment you will become more at ease.
The insect problem is even easier to solve by using bug spray or cruising on days when the wind will keep bugs out of the air.
As for feeling exposed when undressed in the park, don't take all of your clothes off. Lots of outdoor cruisers keep their clothes on. Wear clothes too that are easily pulled down and up, such as a sweatshirt and sweatpants. Wear the right outfit and you won't need underwear or a t-shirt, either. Less clothes to keep track of means less to put back on in case something goes wrong. Or less to pull up, in the case of your pants around your knees.
Whatever you do, keep an eye on cruisingforsex.com. They often post alerts about cops patrolling and arresting people in certain parks. Keep an eye on the township's local paper, too. The police report may provide you with the warning you need to lie low and avoid arrest. Oh, and play safe, okay? It's not always easy to do that in a park.
