How can I avoid losing my sexual desire after I cum?
January 21, 2008
I am a closet gay man. Since I am married, it is very hard for me to get fucked without being caught. When on business trips, I usually hire an escort and enjoy myself tremendously. The only problem I have is that I get so excited about getting fucked that I come fast. And the second after I come, I lose my desire. I dream about getting fucked and sometimes wait for three or four weeks for it and when I ejaculate, the desire is lost. What should I do?
It's perfectly normal for men to lose a lot of their fantasies after they cum. For example, how many guys have thought it would be totally hot to have someone cum on their face and in their mouth? Lots of us. But after we cum and cool down for a few minutes, that hot load suddenly becomes an extra mess. The load hasn't changed, of course. Only how hot we are for it.
If you'd like to avoid losing your desire, try not cumming so quickly. There are lots of things you can do to avoid that. Jacking off on a regular basis is one way. Spending more time with your partner is another one - some me find anxiety makes them cum more quickly. Another is to have a longer session with the guy and have him get you off more than once. He can give you a hot blowjob while he plays with your ass at first, and then an hour later when you're heating up again he can fuck you that time.
It's not necessarily a bad thing that you don't want to get fucked after you cum, either. Fucking can be uncomfortable, but in our horny state we find it really exciting. Once you cum it can go back to being uncomfortable. Try those techniques for not cumming so fast, and having sex more than once during a meeting. If you're as turned on as you sound, you'll manage just fine. It just takes a few extra minutes in the middle to recharge. Good luck!
If you'd like to avoid losing your desire, try not cumming so quickly. There are lots of things you can do to avoid that. Jacking off on a regular basis is one way. Spending more time with your partner is another one - some me find anxiety makes them cum more quickly. Another is to have a longer session with the guy and have him get you off more than once. He can give you a hot blowjob while he plays with your ass at first, and then an hour later when you're heating up again he can fuck you that time.
It's not necessarily a bad thing that you don't want to get fucked after you cum, either. Fucking can be uncomfortable, but in our horny state we find it really exciting. Once you cum it can go back to being uncomfortable. Try those techniques for not cumming so fast, and having sex more than once during a meeting. If you're as turned on as you sound, you'll manage just fine. It just takes a few extra minutes in the middle to recharge. Good luck!
