Is my relationship normal if we have sex twice a month?
January 21, 2008
My partner and I have been together for six years. We have lived together for four and even bought a house together last year. We have a great relationship - we spend most of our time together and rarely get sick of each other. It's not always perfect, but we're both very happy. I really have two questions. First one; we both snore badly and because of this one of us goes into the other room to sleep--this happens every night. Do you think this is normal? Do other couples sacrifice a good night's sleep just to say you sleep together. This has worked for us, but I just don't want to become his roommate This leads to my second question. We are only having sex now about 1-2X per month. And even then, it's basically just frottage. We both like it and have great orgasms. Do you think this is normal behavior for two relatively normal, healthy 34 year old men? I should mention that we both get a little on the side and we both know about this and are ok with it.
As you said, you have two questions. In regards to the snoring problem, snoring so loudly that it drives someone out of the room is certainly unusual. But if neither of you two are particularly bothered by it, then it's not a problem. If it does bother one or both of you, then try talking to your doctor. He may have some suggestions on how to deal with the snoring. Try looking at Dr Koop's website for his article, Ten Ways to Stop Snoring. It may have a few suggestions that work for you.
As for your relatively minimal sex life, that's again an issue between the two of you. It's not uncommon for couples to have less sex after years into their relationship, although once or twice a month is certainly less than average. That may indicate a communication problem between the two of you. And if you have one of those, one of those tricks on the side someday may turn into a more serious affair. But if you two are happy, enjoy the sex you do have, and are content with what you do, then more power to you. Enjoy the frottage, have great sex when you do, and forget what the rest of the world thinks.
As for your relatively minimal sex life, that's again an issue between the two of you. It's not uncommon for couples to have less sex after years into their relationship, although once or twice a month is certainly less than average. That may indicate a communication problem between the two of you. And if you have one of those, one of those tricks on the side someday may turn into a more serious affair. But if you two are happy, enjoy the sex you do have, and are content with what you do, then more power to you. Enjoy the frottage, have great sex when you do, and forget what the rest of the world thinks.
