Should I be mad that my escort was messy down there?
January 21, 2008
I hired an escort the other day and informed him prior to his arrival that I love to eat ass when it is majorly clean. Well, to make a long story a little shorter, when I started to fuck him and immediately smelled the unmentionable. This really pissed me off as he knew he would be bottoming out for me as part of his services. Should I inform him I will not be hiring again and why. I know many people are offended by the smell (and visibility) of a non-douched ass. I was so pissed if I had not already paid him I probably would have told him to leave. I would appreciate your response to this.
The number one question this column is asked is how to avoid "mess" during anal sex. There are no formal training courses on the subject for gay men. Even for escorts, whom you might think should be experts on sex, there is a considerable lack of education. After all, how are they supposed to learn instead of fumbling through life until they stumble across a lesson the subject?
This being said, I would have suggested you deal with the subject in the same way I would. I discreetly help clean up the mess and make a few suggestions how it can be avoided in the future. If you have an enema handy, you may even want to suggest the escort go use it in the other room.
I totally understand why you're upset. You're paying good money and expect your needs to be met. But considering "mess problems" are widespread in gay sex, I'd have cut him a break provided he was willing to learn how to avoid the problem in the future. If avoiding "mess" is a major concern of yours, you may want to stick to very experienced bottom escorts in the future, or may even want to suggest in advance that he use an enema to clean himself out.
This being said, I would have suggested you deal with the subject in the same way I would. I discreetly help clean up the mess and make a few suggestions how it can be avoided in the future. If you have an enema handy, you may even want to suggest the escort go use it in the other room.
I totally understand why you're upset. You're paying good money and expect your needs to be met. But considering "mess problems" are widespread in gay sex, I'd have cut him a break provided he was willing to learn how to avoid the problem in the future. If avoiding "mess" is a major concern of yours, you may want to stick to very experienced bottom escorts in the future, or may even want to suggest in advance that he use an enema to clean himself out.
