How can I spice up my sex life?
January 21, 2008
My boyfriend & I don't have sex as often as we should. There's nothing wrong about our love. It's just that we both live with parents that we can only have sex while they're away. Would you please give me idea on how to boost up our mood and enjoy sex? Thanks a million!
You both live with your folks? That could present a problem. I have no idea how old the two of you are (Can you drive yet? Are you living at home after college?), so it's hard to say for sure how to deal with the parents. Ideally, you two can move out and get your own place together as soon as you're able. That may be at college or in a home of your own.
Till that point, try spicing up your sex life with two age-old ingredients of a hot sex life: spontaniety and romance.
Do spontaneous things. Go on a date for an evening, and suddenly turn to him in the middle of everything and say, "let's blow this joint and go have sex." Park the car in an out of the way location, and go at it. (Just don't get caught!). Take him out for a surprise evening at a hotel, complete with room service. Even when you're doing things in bed, use your imagination. Bring along a can of whipped cream, spray it on him, and lick it all up. Or buy a few sex toys and use them on yourself while he watches and jacks off on you. Use your imagination! If he likes porn, buy a movie with his favorite porn star, and have sex with him the same way the star is getting it. Or if you're really into a bit of adventure, surprise him by bringing a third into the situation. (Just make sure he's be ok with that sort of idea!)
Romance is easy to do too. Make him understand that he's the number one guy in your life. When you're in bed with him, give him little gifts (even if it's nothing fancy) or cards. Spend and evening where the sex revolves around meeting his needs rather than your own. Or save your money for reservations at a formal restaurant (better yet, a gay restaurant!) before you have sex in a hotel somewhere (unless the folks are away). Get all dressed up in a jacket and tie for the evening. I guarantee you that when you undress each other from all that formal attire, the sex will be super magical.
There are lots of creative ways for spicing up a sex life. Poke around on the web for straight articles about that sort of thing. I suspect a lot of their ideas are perfectly transferrable to a gay couple. Good luck!
Till that point, try spicing up your sex life with two age-old ingredients of a hot sex life: spontaniety and romance.
Do spontaneous things. Go on a date for an evening, and suddenly turn to him in the middle of everything and say, "let's blow this joint and go have sex." Park the car in an out of the way location, and go at it. (Just don't get caught!). Take him out for a surprise evening at a hotel, complete with room service. Even when you're doing things in bed, use your imagination. Bring along a can of whipped cream, spray it on him, and lick it all up. Or buy a few sex toys and use them on yourself while he watches and jacks off on you. Use your imagination! If he likes porn, buy a movie with his favorite porn star, and have sex with him the same way the star is getting it. Or if you're really into a bit of adventure, surprise him by bringing a third into the situation. (Just make sure he's be ok with that sort of idea!)
Romance is easy to do too. Make him understand that he's the number one guy in your life. When you're in bed with him, give him little gifts (even if it's nothing fancy) or cards. Spend and evening where the sex revolves around meeting his needs rather than your own. Or save your money for reservations at a formal restaurant (better yet, a gay restaurant!) before you have sex in a hotel somewhere (unless the folks are away). Get all dressed up in a jacket and tie for the evening. I guarantee you that when you undress each other from all that formal attire, the sex will be super magical.
There are lots of creative ways for spicing up a sex life. Poke around on the web for straight articles about that sort of thing. I suspect a lot of their ideas are perfectly transferrable to a gay couple. Good luck!
