How can I negotiate with a hustler in a dignified fashion?
January 21, 2008
In my experience, prostitution is like politics - it brings out the worst in people. Our escort bar (Sneakers) here in Toronto is a horror show. But why should it be so difficult to connect with someone for a mutually advantageous hour? From your experience, can you provide a few basic pointers as to how to negotiate and conduct such an hour, without feeling like - or treating the other person like - a creep?
Sure! My first tip would be to walk out of Sneakers and start looking elsewhere for that hour. Almost by definition hustlers are not customer-service oriented. They are looking for a quick buck in exchange for as little as they have to do to get it. Looking for a mutually-rewarding hour with a hustler in a city with a more sophisticated infrastructure for escorts is like looking in a bathhouse for Mr. Right. You may find it, but it is highly doubtful.
What do I mean by sophisticated infrastructure? I mean strip bars where the strippers provide private shows, gay publications with escort print ads, and regular Internet access by escorts that work in the area. Hustler bars are fine in cities that otherwise have no way for people to hire sex workers. But if you're checking out the hustlers in Toronto, don't expect to find anything more than people looking to be blown in exchange for whatever they can get.
What do I mean by sophisticated infrastructure? I mean strip bars where the strippers provide private shows, gay publications with escort print ads, and regular Internet access by escorts that work in the area. Hustler bars are fine in cities that otherwise have no way for people to hire sex workers. But if you're checking out the hustlers in Toronto, don't expect to find anything more than people looking to be blown in exchange for whatever they can get.
