How can I meet men without mixing with the gay community?
January 21, 2008
I am someone who has never been involved with the gay community in the past, but I have always been sexually attracted to men since childhood. I am not ready to come out yet, but I am interested in meeting gay men and possibly initiating a relationship. I would greatly appreciate any recommendations you may have for the best spots in northern NJ to meet someone gay. I am not familiar with any at this time, thank you.
I have a question for you: Who is it that you're not ready to come out to? Your family? Your friends? Your neighbors? Your boss? Your paperboy? Your dog? I can't imagine that many of these people frequent your local gay bar or are members of your local gay community organization. And even if you did run into them there I think you'd only get a welcoming smile. So why not meet guys through all the traditional avenues that the rest of use: bars, print and online personal ads, chatrooms, and gay organizations. You'll definitely want to pick up the latest version of the Damron Guide to get an idea of just what resources exist in your area. And living in NJ as you do, I can already tell you there are lots. Check out the Gay Activist Alliance of Morris County to learn about one good one.
If you're determined to have sex on the "down low" though, I suggest Manhunt. It's a hook-up site with tens of thousands of users on at any given time. You'll certainly be able to get laid through that site.
If you're determined to have sex on the "down low" though, I suggest Manhunt. It's a hook-up site with tens of thousands of users on at any given time. You'll certainly be able to get laid through that site.
