How can I deal with my boyfriend's escort career?
January 21, 2008
I am 20 year-old college student and recently I hired a escort for sex. After we had our fun he asked me out on a date. I told him I could not afford him on a weekly basis, but he did not want money. He wanted to get to know me. Now we have been seeing each other for six months.
I did not mind he was a escort at first, but now it bothers me. I know he loves me and I know it is just business to him, but at the same time he will not give up his profession I know you are married to your lover. Can you offer me some advice?
I did not mind he was a escort at first, but now it bothers me. I know he loves me and I know it is just business to him, but at the same time he will not give up his profession I know you are married to your lover. Can you offer me some advice?
I gave Jeff (my lover) an ultimatum some years back: I wanted to escort full time, and I was willing to break off our-then several year relationship if he said no. In doing so, I made my decision about how I was prioritizing my career and my relationship. After that it was simply a matter of learning what Jeff's priorities were. Fortunately for me, he valued our relationship over having a monogamous relationship in regards to my work.
From what you described, your lover has made his decision. He has decided that he is not willing to give up his work for you. That's his decision to make, but in doing so you cannot be responsible for all of the blame if you decide to break off the relationship. The two of you may love each other dearly, but if you value monogamy more than you value your love for him, your relationship may not be destined to be at this point in time.
In regards as to how Jeff handles my escorting (the ultimatum being four years ago), Jeff says, "It becomes an old hat after a while. You just don't think about it. The brain has a remarkable capacity to not think about things that you don't like. If you don't like what he's doing, don't think about it, or find another relationship.
From what you described, your lover has made his decision. He has decided that he is not willing to give up his work for you. That's his decision to make, but in doing so you cannot be responsible for all of the blame if you decide to break off the relationship. The two of you may love each other dearly, but if you value monogamy more than you value your love for him, your relationship may not be destined to be at this point in time.
In regards as to how Jeff handles my escorting (the ultimatum being four years ago), Jeff says, "It becomes an old hat after a while. You just don't think about it. The brain has a remarkable capacity to not think about things that you don't like. If you don't like what he's doing, don't think about it, or find another relationship.
