How can I get over being scared to fuck a guy?
January 21, 2008
I am a 25 year-old guy and have been married for three years now. I recently met a very handsome guy who wants to sleep with me. He has a cute bottom that really gets me hard. The problem is that I have a fear of what sex between men looks like. So far we have just been kissing and cuddling. He gave me great blowjob, but now he wants me to penetrate him. This is where I am stuck, so I have been avoiding him for weeks now saying stupid excuses.
Your issue sounds more like the fear of fucking a guy than the fear of what sex between two guys looks like. Sex between two men isn't that different from sex between a man and a woman. Sure, it involves different holes and different positions, and you need to bring your own lube, but the general principles are the same.
Since you're nervous about fucking him then be honest with him about your feelings. Have him demonstrate with all your clothes on (or off if you're feeling adventurous) the positions that he'd want you to use while you fucked him. Have him tell you about his experiences being fucked, and learn what positions he likes to do it in. Then think about your own fantasies and what you'd like to do. It's okay to be nervous the first time you fuck him. If he's a good teacher then he'll help you get into a position that you like. Then he should encourage you to pump him however deep or fast as you want to. Once you have banged him a few experiences he can worry about teaching you the more advanced positions and techniques.
It's a virgin straight guy learning to bang an experienced woman, eh? Think of it that way and you will do fine. At the very least call him and talk to him about your fears. If he cares about you at all he won't make an issue of it until you're ready to pursue the issue further. When you're ready to do that is your decision. Until then just keep enjoying those blowjobs while you check out his cute butt.
Since you're nervous about fucking him then be honest with him about your feelings. Have him demonstrate with all your clothes on (or off if you're feeling adventurous) the positions that he'd want you to use while you fucked him. Have him tell you about his experiences being fucked, and learn what positions he likes to do it in. Then think about your own fantasies and what you'd like to do. It's okay to be nervous the first time you fuck him. If he's a good teacher then he'll help you get into a position that you like. Then he should encourage you to pump him however deep or fast as you want to. Once you have banged him a few experiences he can worry about teaching you the more advanced positions and techniques.
It's a virgin straight guy learning to bang an experienced woman, eh? Think of it that way and you will do fine. At the very least call him and talk to him about your fears. If he cares about you at all he won't make an issue of it until you're ready to pursue the issue further. When you're ready to do that is your decision. Until then just keep enjoying those blowjobs while you check out his cute butt.
