What are the dangers of getting cum inside my mouth or butt?

January 21, 2008
I am 19, and planning to get together with a hunk. I want to give him oral (he says he likes his partner to swallow), but I don't know if I would. Are STDs possible? Is there a high risk? What if I spit it out, will that decrease the chances of STDs?

Also, if you ejaculate sperm inside in the anus will it do harm to the body. Will it cause prostate cancer or hemorrhoids?—Anonymous
The good news on cum is that it doesn't directly harm your body. In the absence of any diseases, cum is harmless and won't cause you any problems. It doesn't cause prostate cancer, hemorrhoids, or any such problems. Matter of fact, gay men have lower rates of prostate cancer than straight men (because we have such active sex lives more than because we have anal sex), so blowing loads on a regular basis is good for your health!

The bad news is that there are STDs galore out there, and they can cause you no end of problems. Syphilis, gonorrhea, herpes, HIV, and Hepatitis B and C can all be transmitted through oral sex. Taking sensible precautions like not allowing cum or precum in your mouth when you have cuts or sores in your mouth will help, but it's not foolproof. There are plenty of ways to have cuts in your mouth that you don't know about, such as when you bite your tongue, or were at the dentist that day. Or even just a bit of random bleeding of the gums. The lesson here is that if you want to swallow cum, that's fine. Just be aware that you're taking a risk.

Spitting out cum will help, but not enough to make a significant different. The cum already got in your mouth, after all. A much better compromise is to suck your partner until he is about to cum, and then to jack him as he shoots his load all over your bodies.

Anal sex is even more risky than oral sex. All of those diseases have an even greater chance of being passed during condomless anal sex Not to mention there is a risk of passing genital/anal warts (which in turn is linked with a greater risk of anal cancer). Using condoms helps, but it's not foolproof there either.

So back to your questions: Are STDs possible in oral sex? Yes. Is there a huge risk? Maybe not huge, but it's certainly there. Enough that if you play with multiple partners for long enough (or if your partners have a history tramping around), you'll eventually catch at least one. Don't think that means you shouldn't have oral sex, or that you should even swallow cum on occasion. It just means you should consider the risks, consider your partner's history, and then consider whether your partner has told you the whole truth before you make your decision.

For more information head over to gayhealth.com.—Aaron Lawrence

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