How can I find guys that don't care that I use a wheelchair?
January 20, 2008
I'm a guy with a disability, use a wheelchair due to spinal cord injury. I have a hard time getting guys to take me as a sexual being. I'm 30, nice looking, and very straight acting. (Hmm, that might be the problem too). Any suggestions? Have you been with any guys with disabilities?
I have been hired by a number of clients with disabilities. It's not an issue to me at all. Matter o' fact, my master's degree is in college administration with an emphasis in services for students with disabilities. So obviously that doesn't freak me out at all.
As for men viewing you as a sexual being, why not do what the rest of us do - work out and look your absolute best. I've seen some pretty sexy guys in wheelchairs before that I've wanted to bang. A hot one who keeps fit will obviously look better than one that is highly overweight. Admitted the nature of your spinal cord injury will affect your ability to exercise.
And don't forget that a woman with a wheelchair posed for Playboy a few years back. If she can be a sex symbol that way, why not you? : )
Here's another hint - come out of the closet and get out in the gay community to meet people. Being straight acting isn't a problem, but you're certainly not going to get a date if all you do is work and sit at home feeling lonely. Especially if you're not out at all.
The issue of you using in a wheelchair isn't half as significant as you might think. We all have our challenges in life. If you think for a moment you'll come up with a large list of challenges worse than your own (and I'm not talking disabilities, either). So don't let your chair get you down. Stick a rainbow flag on the back and get out there and meet people.
As a parting thought, I know there are modern bathhouses that are wheelchair accessible. If you get horny enough you may want to find one, take a friend out with you, and have a wild night of adventure. If nothing else it'll make one helluva article for Salon.com.
As for men viewing you as a sexual being, why not do what the rest of us do - work out and look your absolute best. I've seen some pretty sexy guys in wheelchairs before that I've wanted to bang. A hot one who keeps fit will obviously look better than one that is highly overweight. Admitted the nature of your spinal cord injury will affect your ability to exercise.
And don't forget that a woman with a wheelchair posed for Playboy a few years back. If she can be a sex symbol that way, why not you? : )
Here's another hint - come out of the closet and get out in the gay community to meet people. Being straight acting isn't a problem, but you're certainly not going to get a date if all you do is work and sit at home feeling lonely. Especially if you're not out at all.
The issue of you using in a wheelchair isn't half as significant as you might think. We all have our challenges in life. If you think for a moment you'll come up with a large list of challenges worse than your own (and I'm not talking disabilities, either). So don't let your chair get you down. Stick a rainbow flag on the back and get out there and meet people.
As a parting thought, I know there are modern bathhouses that are wheelchair accessible. If you get horny enough you may want to find one, take a friend out with you, and have a wild night of adventure. If nothing else it'll make one helluva article for Salon.com.
