Should I hire an escort to gain more sexual experience?
January 19, 2008
I am bisexual with almost no gay experience. Living in Sweden I have little opportunity to date males, so up to present I have only been involved with three men. They all ended up as friends and not lovers. My current problem involves being assigned to the USA for the past three months. I met a nice guy who last week asked me to become more. I do not want to tell him my total gay experience consists of touching, kissing, and receiving two blowjobs. Honestly!
Unfortunately, I believe that if I told him about my experience then he would only want to be friends. I think I am ready to be more sexual now. Do you recommend I try a professional escort to learn what I do and do not like? Assuming you think so, what sort of escort should I be looking for? How much time is required to develop a basic sexual experience? And what would a basic experience entail?
Unfortunately, I believe that if I told him about my experience then he would only want to be friends. I think I am ready to be more sexual now. Do you recommend I try a professional escort to learn what I do and do not like? Assuming you think so, what sort of escort should I be looking for? How much time is required to develop a basic sexual experience? And what would a basic experience entail?
I think you need a boost in self-confidence, friend. Not to mention more trust in the guy you may start dating. Very few men that are looking for relationships would turn away someone because they have little sexual experience. In a way I think it would make a good test for the guy. If he does not want to have sex with you because you are new to it, then you are better off without him.
That being said, you may still want to play with an escort. But not in order to gain experience so you can date this guy. If you hire a professional escort than it should be so you will be more confident in bed with a man. You do have a few lessons to learn, but they are not the ones you think you need. Knowing you have the ability to learn how to please a man in bed is important, for example. Knowing how to actually fuck an escort is not.
So sure, go ahead and find an escort. Search for an escort who is personable and friendly and will be a good teacher in bed with you. Talk to him first on the phone and get to know him a little bit. If he does not make you feel comfortable, then he may not be a good match for you. If you want to try both topping and bottoming in anal sex, you should make sure the escort is versatile, too.
Hire him for two hours the first time, and then an hour for each session after that. Do it until you no longer feel the need to get together with him. You will know when that point comes. My guess is that it will be within four or five sessions, although it may be more or less depending on your unique personality. During these sessions you will kiss, cuddling, give each other oral sex, and try fucking and being fucked in several positions. You may decide you like all of them, or you may decide you have certain preferences.
However long it takes, you will eventually learn that you have the confidence and ability to go out on your own and have sex with men. You can learn that lesson from an escort, or from a non-escort such as your prospective boyfriend. Either way, relax a little bit and have fun. Sex is a lot easier than you think!
That being said, you may still want to play with an escort. But not in order to gain experience so you can date this guy. If you hire a professional escort than it should be so you will be more confident in bed with a man. You do have a few lessons to learn, but they are not the ones you think you need. Knowing you have the ability to learn how to please a man in bed is important, for example. Knowing how to actually fuck an escort is not.
So sure, go ahead and find an escort. Search for an escort who is personable and friendly and will be a good teacher in bed with you. Talk to him first on the phone and get to know him a little bit. If he does not make you feel comfortable, then he may not be a good match for you. If you want to try both topping and bottoming in anal sex, you should make sure the escort is versatile, too.
Hire him for two hours the first time, and then an hour for each session after that. Do it until you no longer feel the need to get together with him. You will know when that point comes. My guess is that it will be within four or five sessions, although it may be more or less depending on your unique personality. During these sessions you will kiss, cuddling, give each other oral sex, and try fucking and being fucked in several positions. You may decide you like all of them, or you may decide you have certain preferences.
However long it takes, you will eventually learn that you have the confidence and ability to go out on your own and have sex with men. You can learn that lesson from an escort, or from a non-escort such as your prospective boyfriend. Either way, relax a little bit and have fun. Sex is a lot easier than you think!
