Should escorts be paid before or after sex?

January 20, 2008
For hourly arrangements or several hours, as opposed to overnight or trips, when should payment actually be made? I generally have the agreed upon fee discretely in view--assuming we are meeting in my room or a private place as opposed to a restaurant. In my experience the best escorts, or maybe I should say the ones I've had the best time with, don't pocket it or ask for it until later. But some ask for it first thing. Is there a standard?—Anonymous
The time of payment varies from escort to escort as well. Most escorts who trust their clients are happy to be paid after the encounter, while the less trusting and experienced ones tend to require the money up front. Escorts for agencies often are required to follow their agency policy and request the money up front. Hustlers and exotic dancers doing a "private show" also traditionally require the money up front

It's usually a good idea to begin the encounter by discreetly leaving the money in plain sight, such as on a table or dresser. Doing so lets an escort know that he will be paid, and avoids potential legal complications in exchanging money for sex.

One tip that escorts may want to keep in mind is that while clients do sometimes screw over the escort and refuse to pay, the lost money is more than made up for by tips from the clients who pay at the end of the session.—Aaron Lawrence

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