Do bottoms need to be rimmed first?
January 20, 2008
I am 23 and I am going to have my first experience as a top in a few days. My last lover literally 'used' me as a bottom and I have no idea how to successfully top a guy. I've heard that rimming a guy before topping him usually makes him feel sexier and also lubricates and widens the anus, so that penetration becomes easier. Is that right?
Very perceptive! Rimming (the licking of the anus) is a great way to relax a bottom before anal sex. By no means is it the only way or the best way, but it is certainly part of a well-balanced sexual diet.
Since you're about to have your first experience as a top, I suggest you think back to everything you wish your partner did for you when you were bottoming. You probably wish he took it more slowly, was more gentle, and spent lots more time on foreplay. Well, here's your chance to rewrite history in a fashion. Treat your lover the way you wish your first treated you. If he's an experienced bottom, he'll be able to help guide you through the process too.
One tip that many tops should know is to get the bottom ready for penetration before you worry about your own dick. What I mean is that if you get yourself hard and put the condom and then start to lube and play with the bottom, by the time he is ready you will probably have lost your erection. It is a much better idea to get that bottom ready to be fucked, and then to get yourself hard. Not only is it easier to get hard before the condom goes on, you'll be able to tease your partner something fierce while you play with yourself. The feeling of rubbing your dick up against his ass will drive him wild, too. Just don't get too excited and slip into him before you put on the rubber!
Since you're about to have your first experience as a top, I suggest you think back to everything you wish your partner did for you when you were bottoming. You probably wish he took it more slowly, was more gentle, and spent lots more time on foreplay. Well, here's your chance to rewrite history in a fashion. Treat your lover the way you wish your first treated you. If he's an experienced bottom, he'll be able to help guide you through the process too.
One tip that many tops should know is to get the bottom ready for penetration before you worry about your own dick. What I mean is that if you get yourself hard and put the condom and then start to lube and play with the bottom, by the time he is ready you will probably have lost your erection. It is a much better idea to get that bottom ready to be fucked, and then to get yourself hard. Not only is it easier to get hard before the condom goes on, you'll be able to tease your partner something fierce while you play with yourself. The feeling of rubbing your dick up against his ass will drive him wild, too. Just don't get too excited and slip into him before you put on the rubber!
